Visits: Staying Connected While Your Child Is In Care
Rise’s very first issue is about staying connected to your children while they’re in foster care. It hurts to be able to spend only a few hours each week with your children. Saying goodbye is always tough. In their own words, parents who have been there explain how they advocated for the visits they needed and made the best of the time they had with their children.
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